Releasing Your Wounded Inner Child

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‘What comes to mind when someone talks about “your inner child”?  I used to think of  the inner child as that innocent, carefree, hopeful, silly person deep inside that we somehow lost track of as life progressed, and the responsibilities of life began to weigh us down. I allowed myself to believe that we all used to be innocent and carefree as children and somehow we needed to find our way back to that “inner child” in order to live life to the fullest.  While this can be true, for many of us, myself included, I did some reflecting and realized  something  life changing,  I realized I don’t ever remember being  a carefree, innocent, secure, hopeful child.  For me, and like many others, my childhood was riddled with trauma and dysfunction.  My parents, whom I loved very much, were wounded warriors themselves. They also carried inside of them a wounded inner child .

“I am talking about the whining little brat that lives in the back room of our mind, that unhappy victim who always can be relied upon to blame everyone else for our unhappiness.”  Sound familiar? The wounded inner child does not want us to look at the pain and suffering we have endured, it can’t! It is not capable of processing such deeply disturbing emotions, so it holds onto the pain like a tattered teddy bear, refusing to let go of the old, worn out, broken companion. The wounded inner child never allows for something new that could bring comfort and joy to it’s life. That tattered teddy bear may look like a useless toy to anyone else, but for the wounded inner child, it’s the only comfort it knows.

“Our spiritual evolution depends heavily upon our recovery from the worst addiction, our addiction to the victim archetype, which traps us in the past and saps our life energy. The inner child represents nothing but a metaphor for our wounded, cutesy form of victim consciousness”

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It always seems to go back to our childhood.  What is the infamous line you hear every shrink use? “Tell me about your childhood”.  It makes perfect sense.  We form our opinions of the world around us by what we observe from our earliest caregivers, usually our parents, but not always (which could be a traumatic event in itself).

Holding onto your inner child only holds you back, because that child represents your past wounds. While you want to move on with your life, you may be surprised to find that your inner child may want to move on too! How is this possible? There is a lot of tools out there to help one release their painful pasts.  There is therapy and medication,  (which we know does not release the pain, it only masks it).  Often times we self-medicate, setting ourselves up to become addicted to anything that numbs the pain and further stunts our ability to “grow up” and live the life we always dreamed of. What is holding you back from releasing your “wounded inner child”?

We are now grown up, it is time to let go, We must be willing to do the work if we are to “grow up”.  Being a Certified Life Coach and Certified Hypnotherapist, I believe in the power of Holistic Healing. I would like to suggest a meditation that could be life changing.  It is a meditation script in which we can come face to face with this wounded child and set it free. Are you ready to let go?

Sit comfortably, and take three deep breaths allow your body to relax. . Notice any areas of your body that remain tight. Consciously relax them, knowing that during this meditation your body will continue to relax with every breath you take, and soon you will be profoundly relaxed from head to toe. Now look inside yourself and find the room in which sits the young person who has willingly carried your pain. Find the inner child who holds your memories of being abused, ignored, betrayed, abandoned, unaccepted, unloved. As you come upon this little person in that room, notice that he or she is surrounded by ledgers and score lists. The walls of the room are covered with people’s names, what they did to you and what punishment they deserve. In the ledgers, the child keeps a careful tally of all the times someone victimized you and what it cost you. Notice the joylessness of this room. As you look at this young child, realize how sad he or she really feels locked down there alone with the pain, mired down in victim consciousness. Realizing that it is time for a change, you walk across the room and throw open the windows to let in the light. As the sun floods into the room, the ink on the wall charts starts to fade and the books start to crumble and become dust. The lists on the wall also fall to the ground and crumble. Look at the little person who has lived in this room for all those years, a prisoner of sorts. It has been keeping resentment scores day by day. See his/her broad smile and joyous expression, knowing you have come to set him/her FREE! “Now I am free to go,” the child says. “Go where?” You ask. “I’m free to go to the next place. I should have left years ago, but I’ve been waiting for you to release me from this job.” Suddenly you notice that this person, who was young and childlike such a short while ago, is growing old and becoming wizened and grey-haired right before your eyes. Yet, a great peace has replaced his or her sadness. “Thank you for letting me go,” he/she whispers in gratitude. Please unlock the door and let me go. You look into your hand, and suddenly you are holding a large key, you know what you are to do with it.  You say, “I’m sorry it’s taken so long to bring light into this room. I’m sorry I’ve held you back.” “That’s quite alright,” comes the quiet reply. “It really is okay. Time is just an illusion anyway. ” With that, the little person walks towards you, you see that there is has a keyhole over his/her heart. You gently insert the key and turn the lock. A little door above his/her heart opens and a rush of stale, heavy wind rushes out and is released from the soul of the wounded child. The physical body is released from all the pain, suffering, resentments, hurts and sorrow, he/she is free! As you notice the room feels stale and heavy with the negative air/energy that has been released, suddenly a gush of wind rushes into the light filled room and sweeps away all the dark, heavy air that filled the room only  a moment ago. He/she is free from the life that has held it prisoner to all the pain. He/She looks peaceful and serene. Lovingly, you wrap your arms around this inner child. You embrace him/her and you are both filled with an energy so powerful, so beautiful, a surge of hope, love, peace and happiness wash over you both. You take the key and realize you must unlock the door to let your inner child free to live the life it has wanted to live. You unlock the door and she/he goes upstairs and out into the light. There waits a horse and buggy, and angels hover nearby. A choir of angels sings softly. All the people who have ever been in your life are waiting to pay their respects and shower you both with love. All past hurts are forgiven. Love is everywhere. The bells on the horse and buggy ring softly as the entourage slowly begins its journey to the hill where celebration has been prepared. At the celebration site, everyone sings and great joy envelops the group. Your angels are with you and support you as you say your last farewell. See the little person slowly being carried away by the angels, the celestial choir sings. As the child grows smaller and smaller with the distance, you feel a new sense of freedom and love moving through you. You walk to the bottom of the hill where you find a fast running stream. You wash your hands and your face in the water and see your reflection in the water. You feel the cleansing water of the stream running through your being, taking with it all the dust and debris from the room where the little person once dwelt. Hear the sound of the water babbling over the rocks. See the sun sparkling on the water, and feel the warmth of the sun on your body. Notice the green of the surrounding fields and the many bright flowers around. All is well. Open your eyes whenever you feel ready to do so.

Being without your wounded inner child will feel strange for a while, but you also will begin to notice some positive changes. You will feel lighter, less burdened, more in the moment. Your life energy will increase as you retrieve the energy that previously was spent holding onto the wounds of the inner child. Be prepared to encounter problems with close friends with whom you previously spent time sharing wounds. They will not like the change in you, for they will see that you no longer give your wounds power. Since they remain committed to their wounds, they may be uncomfortable with you; they may even begin feeling as if you have betrayed them. If you are member of a support group that thrives on the sharing of wounds, be prepared to disconnect yourself from the group. You probably will find your need to attend group meetings diminishing . Stick to your guns, and do not take personally other people’s attempts to disconnect from you or talk of betrayal. These people will come around eventually and probably will want some of what they see you have gained.  You now see limitless potential. You no longer carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. You no longer carry around the shame and guilt that was a part of your woundedness. YOU ARE FREE!

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This meditation is a example of one of many wonderful guided imagery or hypnotherapy scripts that can be used to help you transcend.  You may try it by yourself. It might be helpful to read the script and record the story so that you are free to visualize the powerful images.

I would highly recommend that you work with a skilled Certified Hypnotherapist and Life Coach like myself to work through releasing your Wounded Inner Child.  What have you got to lose? That’s right, pain, depression, anxiety, shame and fear.  You have the rest of your life waiting for you to live.  And like me, the struggles you overcome will become a great source of strength. Your “MESS” can become your “MESSage”!

Blessings

 

 

WHAT WILL YOU CHOOSE?

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As human beings, we get to CHOOSE. We get to choose to live the way we want.  We can choose health, happiness and gratitude, or we can choose to make unhealthy choices, ruminate on painful pasts and live in a victim mentality. That is a small example of choices we encounter every moment. We have the beautiful gift of CHOICE, What will you choose?

The path to being Holistically Healthy means choosing actions that will enhance our well being, paying attention to the Trinity of Health, The Mind, Body and Spirit. When you hear, “you are what you eat” it does not necessarily apply only to food, it can be anything you feed yourself, your thoughts, your actions, your choice of entertainment, and the friends you choose to spend time with. Are these choices enhancing your life, or holding you back? What is keeping you from fulfilling your greater destiny?

The Universal law of attraction tells us we will attract the things into our life that we think about and focus on. If this is true, what are you attracting? What do you want to attract? Being in gratitude and focusing on our blessings will  attract more of what we want, we attract more abundance.  This is not to say we don’t encounter challenges, but we learn from those challenges and we Thank The Universe for this lesson and  move on.

GRATITUDE

TODAY I CHOOSE…

  • TO BE GRATEFUL.
  • TO LOVE MYSELF AND OTHERS.
  • TO NOURISH MY BODY WITH HEALTHY WHOLE FOODS
  • TO FEED MY SPIRIT WITH LOVING THOUGHTS ABOUT MYSELF AND THE WORLD AROUND ME.
  • TO FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE ASPECT OF EVERY SITUATION I ENCOUNTER.
  • TO STAY CONNECTED TO MY HIGHER POWER.
  • TO BE OF SERVICE.

WHAT WILL YOU CHOOSE?

I CHOOSE POSITIVITY!

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I think every person struggles with negative thoughts and behaviors at one time or another, some more than others.  I would be lying if I said that I didn’t.  I actually have to work pretty hard at keeping negativity at bay and choosing to look at the positive in any given situation.

I have fallen victim to self-defeating habits in my life.  I made a decision 3 years ago to stop drinking alcohol. I have just over 3 years of sobriety.  It sure took me a long time to realize my coping tool wasn’t working for me the way I believed it was. I fooled myself for many years into thinking I was “managing” my stress when I drank! I wasn’t an everyday drinker, I didn’t have to become a rock bottom drunk to realize I needed to stop, but that didn’t mean my drinking wasn’t destructive.

The sad truth is, alcoholism runs in my family. EVERYONE in my family drank, so in growing up I learned that drinking is how you cope with life. If you’re stressed, DRINK! If you’re happy, DRINK! I used alcohol to cope. In doing so, I didn’t learn how to deal with my emotions very well.  In a sense, I stopped growing emotionally once I started drinking.  But, what I believe now, is that I was still learning, just learning what didn’t work in my life.  I have learned to make peace with my past.  It is work in progress. I MADE A CHOICE, I CHOSE POSITIVITY. Alcohol was my way of dealing with negative emotions, it may be different for you.  Perhaps it’s gambling, shopping, food, sex or drugs.  The truth is there are MANY ways to alter your perception and avoid negative feelings.  The good news is, there is a different way to live! We can CHOOSE POSITIVITY, we can reframe those negative feelings and learn from the emotions that are meant to tell us something important.

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Since I am relatively new at managing emotions, sometimes I let negativity creep in and I want to nurture it, let it fester.  In the past, that would be an excuse to drink, so I would find something to be upset about and feel like I was entitled to a few drinks! And that helped me avoid coping with those wretched feelings.  I liked to live in the victim mentality. NOT ANYMORE! I have learned to see that most of my miseries were a direct result of my actions.  That doesn’t mean I haven’t been a victim at certain times in my life. Yes, I have been hurt by people I loved and trusted. I had no control over some things that happened to me as a child,  it is what it is.  As we know, we cannot change the past, but we can change the way we view it!

I am so grateful for the turn my life has taken.  In the last few years, I have felt such a sense of peace about all the struggles of my past. Failed marriage, troubled children, losing my parents, abuse, neglect, etc.  When I made a decision to face my fears and learn how to process them, it brought me to an amazing place of growth and acceptance! What a great training ground my life has been!

Sometimes though, I have negative thoughts, and I have to make a decision to acknowledge them, find out what the truth is about the present feelings and work through them. What do I have to learn from this? I may need to talk it out with someone, pray, meditate or just wait for those feelings to pass, they always do.  I found that REFRAMING is a great way to turn that negative self-talk into positivity.  I then release it.  Those thoughts can look something like this;

  • I am too old to start a new career.
  • My health is going to make it impossible to do all I need to do to be successful.
  • My Son (who is an addict) is going to die, and then my life will be ruined, I will die of a broken heart.
  • My Autoimmune disorder is going to progress, I hate being in pain all the time, LIFE IS SUCH A STRUGGLE!

The negative thoughts could go on and on! They are usually exaggerated.  With the power of reframing, I can see the reality, and that looks something like this;

  • I am not old, I am experienced! You can get a restart at any time in your life, up until you leave this earthly existence (and then really, that is just another restart!)
  • I am healing! I am learning to heal my body through Holistic Measures, and that is a gift, I am now able to help others to heal!
  • My Son is alive, and I have no way to know what will happen. He may get sober! He may die. I have no control over what he does. I will survive this. I refuse to dwell on that.  I will live in the NOW. I will not bury him in my mind one more time.
  • My health is improving, yes I have some pain, but it could be worse, it is getting better, and everyone struggles with one thing or another.

When I am really struggling with my emotions, it is usually due to lack of sleep or lack of structure. My routines that have been put into place for my betterment may be out of balance. It is important to eat  Healthy Foods, Sleep, Pray, Meditate, Exercise, Socialize and to get out of SELF, I reach out and help others.

Through my training as a Certified Life Coach and Hypnotherapist, I have developed some amazing tools to help me when it gets a little too heavy.  I have found hypnotherapy to be an amazing tool!  I can do self-hypnosis, it’s all about calming my mind, releasing my fears. My head can spin out of control if I let it. I am a (mild) type A personality, I like to be in control of things and when things get out of control, I get very uncomfortable.

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It has taken me a long time to learn how to CHOOSE POSITIVITY, I am learning to Let go and Let God…It takes practice EVERY DAY! But it is worth it! I am so grateful to be where I am today.  I am able to be happy most of the time because I choose to be. I choose to do the work that is necessary to be HAPPY, JOYOUS AND FREE!

OUR WEDDING DAY-OUR TRAINING GROUND

wedding day OurWedding Ceremony – Performed by Native American Medicine Man Mario Blackwolf,

What do a Man and Woman do when they are in love and want to spend the rest of their lives together? Well, some couples choose to marry, and that is what Dave and I did this last weekend, April 22, 2017, in Sedona, Arizona. We are now joined together spiritually, and legally as  “Man and Woman” or in western terms “Man and Wife”.  What a huge blessing.

What does this have to do with being Holistically Healthy?  Everything! Being healthy holistically means you are seeking wellness in every area of your life, Mind, Body and Spirit.  Of course, you don’t have to get married to have a healthy loving relationship. This was a personal choice between my Husband and me.

Relationships are an integral part of living a healthy life.  In the “Blue Zones”,  places that have the highest concentration of centurions, there are a few common factors in each area.  When the lifestyle of people in “Blue Zone” communities were studied, there were some common threads.  Diet is a huge factor,  eating whole, organic, local, seasonal foods were key.  Physical activity also plays a huge role.  Not going to the gym and “working out”, physical activity was integrated into their daily lives. Nature walks, farming, cooking, gardening, walking vs driving and playing!  But one of the factors many people don’t think about in association with longevity is our human relationships. People who isolate do not live as long and are not as happy.  People who have strong relationships live longer, happier lives.  Imagine that! Think about how our western society has changed.  We often don’t even know who our neighbors are! We have social media to stay in touch with our “friends”.  We text, we don’t talk we “like” posts and Snapchat.  I think we all agree there are benefits to modern technology, but we are losing that human connection that is so important.

MYGIRLS  FAMILY IS VERY IMPORTANT

I love something I heard from my life coach teacher,  Richard Seaman.  He said, “relationships are the training ground of the Holy Spirit”.  I believe this to be true. Relationships of every kind, family,  friends, children, and spouses, especially spouses.  In a romantic love relationship, it is a relationship you CHOOSE to be in.  As much as we may love our family, you don’t get to choose them, but you do choose who you share your life with.  When it comes to a life partnership, a relationship where two people promise to live together, stand by each other through thick and thin, you have to be willing to let the Holy Spirit work on you both, teaching you things you could never know about yourself left to your own selfish ways.

WEDDINGME      WE ARE NOT DESIGNED TO LIVE ALONE

In a love relationship, two people meet, and there is an attraction.  In the beginning, you have EVERYTHING IN COMMON! You form your relationship on an attraction, and all the commonalities you share.  As time passes, that “chemical” in your brain that makes you float on clouds starts to dissipate and you come back to reality.  Pretty soon you realize how different you are from your partner.  This is where the rubber hits the road.  You may decide that you don’t want to change to “fit” into this person’s life, or, should you choose to proceed, something amazing can happen.  This is when the “training” begins”.

Society today teaches us we should be INDEPENDENT and STRONG.  We should not let anyone change WHO WE ARE!  It’s common to hear people say things like, “I don’t NEED a man (or woman), I am confident in myself, I don’t NEED anyone to make me happy.  Or, “I won’t sacrifice myself to make someone else happy”. All this may be true, but the truth is we live in a self-absorbed culture.  It is much easier to live our life our own way.  But, do we really grow when we stay in our comfort zone and do life OUR WAY?  I don’t believe we can grow to our fullest potential when we live life only for ourselves. God created us to be relational, he created us to desire love and companionship.

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This does not mean if we are not “married” or in a committed relationship we cannot be happy or grow, I just think that if we are someone who decides to participate in a committed relationship, there are unique lessons to be learned that we cannot learn any other way.

Dave and I are very different people.  We share commonalities, our core principle values are the same.  It is essential for two people to share core values.  We all agree there are different lifestyles.  For two people to be successful in a relationship,  they must possess similar values and lifestyles to be compatible.  Dave and I have that, but beyond that, we are two very different people.  I guess I would be pegged as Type A, Dave is not.  I want things clean, orderly and planned.  Dave is laid back, could care less if the bed is not made or if the future is not perfectly clear.  He has a strong faith and believes everything will be ok, I lack faith, in that if I don’t have a plan, chaos is sure to ensue.  Neither one of us is right or wrong, but a healthier place for both of us to be is somewhere in the middle.  In the process of being in a relationship with each other, the Holy Spirit is teaching us both a new way to look at things.  Life is not black and white, we certainly can plan, but we cannot control everything (as I like to think I am able to do, yea, doesn’t work so well).  We are IN TRAINING! We are teaching each other love and tolerance, and how to live happily through chaos and order because both things can be present on any given day.  I love learning from this man I love with all of my heart.

Granted, relationships are not always easy.  You do have to be willing to compromise certain things.  I am not talking about compromising your core values, that would not be healthy.  Relationships take work.  You must be willing NOT to GIVE and TAKE, but to GIVE and GIVE, and then give some more.  You see, when both are GIVING, we are both RECEIVING, That is how that works.   It is work, but the rewards of navigating through the joys and challenges of a relationship are so rewarding.  You truly learn more about yourself than you could ever learn through a solo journey.

My life has changed so much over the past 3 years.  That is when I started my journey to Wellness.  I have learned how to love myself and care for myself through my holistic practices of nutrition, spirituality and being open to what the Universe brings into my life.  These changes have allowed me to be the best version of myself.  I discovered that even though becoming healthy was the goal, it was not meant to be the destination, it was the start of a life beyond my wildest dreams.  A life filled with Love, Lessons, and Discovery.  I discovered I was not meant to travel this road alone, I have a partner who supports my dreams and aspirations, and I support his.  Dave is my biggest cheerleader!

I am a healer, and I have a purpose on this planet, as does my Husband.  We are so excited to cheer each other on and travel this road together. I cannot wait to learn all the lessons the Holy Spirit has to teach me through this amazing relationship, and all the relationships I have been blessed with in this life.

Blessings

IS THERE A PANACEA?

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In a previous Blog, I asked the question, what does holistic health mean to you? What does it mean to be “Holistically Healthy”?

“ho·lis·tic   hōˈlistik/

adjective

PHILOSOPHY

characterized by comprehension of the parts of something as intimately interconnected and explicable only by reference to the whole.

  1. MEDICINE

characterized by the treatment of the whole person, taking into account mental and social factors, rather than just the physical symptoms of a disease.”

To sum it up, Holistic means  “Whole”, in holistic therapies we treat a person as a WHOLE BEING.  We do not believe that illness is just a symptom that can be fixed by addressing ONE ISSUE.  Illness has a root cause that is being fed by a combination of things being out of balance.  Knowing the root cause is key, and every disease is rooted not just in the physical body but is connected to the Mind, Body, and Spirit of a person.

Let’s say, a person suffers from chronic headaches, a holistic approach would not be, ” take these pills and call me in the morning”, that would be treating the symptom, the part of the body that hurts, essentially masking the problem.  A holistic response would be working to identify WHY the person suffers from headaches and work on treating the root cause.  It should be is understood that the treatment of a disease or illness should be looked at in relation to the person’s entire well-being, the person as a whole.

With that being said.  How does this benefit us?  Isn’t it easier to go to the Dr’s office and have him address what is ailing you, prescribe an appropriate medication, and send you on your way? I think not.

Having dealt with an autoimmune disorder for the past 15 years, I have found many things that work, and many that don’t work.  As I have shared, treating my symptoms with pharmaceuticals did not work, a holistic approach did. There is a place for modern medicine, but I think we can all agree it has gotten out of control. There is a pill for every ill.  It is an epidemic.

In my journey of holistic treatments, I found there is not ONE MIRACLE CURE.  Many companies, whether they be pharmaceutical companies or natural supplements companies would like you to believe their product is the answer to all that ails you, this simply is not true, I wish it were, but it is not.

In my journey I like to refer to as “My Zehnderful Journey”, I have fallen prey to many advertisements, books and promises from Doctors and even some naturopathic practitioners that promise  “healing” by simply doing this, or taking that. Excited and hopeful, I dive in 100% and find, much to my dismay, it is not the PANACEA.

PANACEA

Pan · a · it · has
panəseə /
noun
 a solution or remedy for all difficulties or diseases.
  1. “the panacea for all corporate ills”
    synonyms: universal cure, cure-all, cure for all ills, a universal remedy, elixir, wonder drug;

    informal magic bullet
    “a panacea for the country’s economic problems”

If you are seeking better health and well-being holistically, and you understand what holistically means, you would understand that there is no panacea.  In seeking to heal myself, through my education process I found that I had to address all areas of my life in order to feel my best.

I have learned from the process of healing my body. Through education, research and trial and error, I found that I had to address all areas of my life in order to feel my best.

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You see if a person is TRULY a holistic coach or health practitioner they will be the first to tell you that your healing will come from different sources.

Diet is very important. Food is medicine! A (truly) healthy diet is choosing to eat S.O.U.L food, (Sustainable, Organic, Unprocessed, Local) it is ESSENTIAL! That is going to assure your BODY is functioning optimally, allowing your physical system to operate properly with minimal stress to your vital organs, allowing you to heal from disease processes that may be taking place in you BODY.

What if you are eating properly, but you are under chronic stress? Like a stressful job, family issues, depression, money problems, etc.  Well, when we are under stress, it is damaging to our BODIES, making us more susceptible to disease. However, the issue (our thoughts) is centered in our MIND, it makes sense we need to address how we think. How do we learn to deal with stress? Some helpful practices are prayer,  meditation, exercise, practicing mindfulness and living in an attitude of gratitude.  Our thoughts are very powerful, if we don’t take steps to make our minds healthy, we are setting ourselves up for illness and disease.

What about our spiritual connection?  Is it necessary to be spiritual to be healthy? I think so. Science has proven that people with faith are healthier, they recover faster from illness than those without faith.  I am not saying you need to prescribe to a specific religion, but we are spiritual beings whether we like it or not. Yes, we are physical bodies, but we have a spiritual aspect that cannot be ignored.  What I am saying is that there is what I like to refer to as the “Trinity” of health, the MIND, BODY, AND SPIRIT. They are all connected and we cannot be truly healthy if any of these aspects are out of balance, they affect each other.

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In my journey, my dietary changes have made a tremendous difference in my health, there is no denying a proper diet is key.  But even when I am eating perfectly (as possible) if I allow my stress levels to go up and do not manage my emotions, I get flare ups of my illness.  Stress will make me just as ill as eating a poor diet.  How do I manage my stress? Through spiritual practices.

As a Mind, Body and Wellness practitioner I personally offer different modalities in helping you achieve optimal wellness.  I offer hypnotherapy, life coaching, and holistic nutrition coaching.  They all work together to achieve that balance necessary for helping our bodies heal.  I also believe in many other modalities and do not hesitate to recommend other treatments such as acupuncture, chiropractic care, reiki, polarity, massage, supplements, etc.

We have to start somewhere, the road to wellness is a journey.  We are individuals and what works for one person may not work for another.  We have to take responsibility for our health and not be afraid to take the time necessary to find the right combination of “tools” that bring about the greatest changes for better health.

Be open minded, curious and responsible.  Don’t let anyone tell you they have “THE” answer, there is not ONE answer that fits ALL.  Believe me, I know, I have been on this journey and I AM finding what works for me,  I am healing, through a process, and I know you can too!

Blessings

HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE

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When someone hurts you, it is easy to want to retaliate. But remember, “Hurt people hurt people”.  Everyone is fighting a battle we know nothing about. “Love is the weapon of the future”. Fight hate with Love.

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WHAT IS HOLISTIC HEALTH?

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Hello!  I hope this QUICK blog finds you well.  I have had a lot on my plate lately, and I apologize that I have not had a chance to write lately.  I am getting married in less than two weeks!  It is a very exciting time for us, but very busy.

I was thinking how I am so very grateful that I am following this “Zehnderful Journey” of becoming “Holistically Healthy”, it has allowed me to keep up with all the blessings in my life. With school, wedding planning, homework, and all the regular stuff that life comes with.  Following my holistic practices has given me the gift of health so that I can sustain all of my activities. While my health has improved TREMENDOUSLY,  I am not 100%, I do have to pace myself and be sure to eat properly, hydrate and get plenty of rest, which I’m sure you know can be a challenge when you are on the go a lot.

The name of my business is “Holistically Healthy”.  It refers to Holistic Health.  What it means to me is being/becoming HEALTHY by holistic measures.  What does that mean?

We had to write an essay on that subject in school.  I had to think about it for a bit before I could properly answer, I would like you to think about what that means to you. So, for this blog, I would like to engage YOU, the reader by posing a question.  Instead of ME telling YOU what it means I would love to hear what holistic health means to you. I hope you will all participate. So, here it goes;

WHAT DOES HOLISTIC HEALTH MEAN TO YOU?

Cannot wait to read your responses!

Blessings

DON’T FORGET YOUR PHYTO’S

Phyto what? Phytonutrients or Phytochemicals are an important part of our diet.  We are all familiar with vitamins and minerals.  Most folks know that the food they eat contains vitamins and minerals that are necessary for optimal health.  Alot of people take vitamin and mineral supplements to assure they are not deficient.  Most processed foods are “enriched” with vitamins and minerals (because processing essentially strips the food of any good nutrients, so the manufacturer’s think they can simply add the nutrients back in and all is good, not so, but more about that another time). How familiar are you with Phytonutrients?   Phytonutrients are an essential part of good nutrition. But what are they?

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The Greek word PHYTO means Plant,  and Nutrient of course speaks for itself. Basically phytonutrients are a substance found in plants, vegetables and whole grains. They are beneficial to human health and helps prevent various diseases.  They are relatively new to the world of science.  While vitamins and minerals were discovered in 1912, phytonutrients  were not discovered until  sometime in the 1950’s. Scientist kinda put that research on the back burner until the 90’s when a surge of research started.  Once they started digging in they realized the magnitude of this discovery.  Since the 90’s scientist have identified over 40,000 phytonutrients, but they believe there could be as many as 400,00!!  This is incredible!  But what do they do?

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The list of benefits of phytonutrients is a long one. Some of the ways they help keep our bodies healthy are by these actions:

  • Antioxidant action– Most phytochemicals have antioxidant properties.
  • Anti-bacterial action – The phytochemical allicin from garlic has anti-bacterial properties.
  • Hormonal action – Isoflavones, found in soy, imitate human estrogens.
  • Interference with DNA replication – Saponins found in beans interfere with the replication of cell DNA, thereby preventing the multiplication of cancer cells.
  • Stimulation of enzymes – Indoles, which are found in cabbages, stimulate enzymes that make the estrogen less effective and could reduce the risk of breast and other hormone related cancers.
  • Physical action – Some phytochemicals bind physically to cell walls thereby preventing the adhesion of pathogens to human cell walls.

Phytonutrients are also important to plant health.  They are what protects the plants from germs, fungi, UV radiation, critters (phytonutrients are bitter, but the bitter the better they are for you!) and other threats.  Fruits, vegetables and whole grains contain phytonutrients.

Phytonutrients give food their colors. That is why it is important to eat a variety of different color foods (See my blog “Edible Rainbow”).

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As we discussed there are over 40,000 phytonutrients, but let’s take a  look at just a few phytonutrients and discover a little bit about what their benefits are.

  • Chlorophyll:  Clorophyll is found in green foods such as wheatgrass, algae, seaweeds and green veggies. It increases red blood cells, fights cancer, protects from radiation, kills germs, assists in healing wounds, detoxifies the liver and helps digestion and weight control.
  • Carotenoids:  Cartenoids are usually found in orange, yellow and red fruits and vegetable, such as carrots, pumpkin, sweet potato, canteloupe, plums, apricots and surprisingly kale and spinach. Cartenoids supports eye health, cardiovascular health, possible anti-tumor properties, supports male fertility and enhances skin health.
  • Genistein:  Genistein is found in soy.  Isoflavones belong to the group of flavonoids. Because it is similar to human estrogen it is also called a phytoestrogen. It acts as an estrogen, antioxidant, anti-cancer agent and could possibly help people with metabolic syndrome.
  • Hesperetin:  Hesperetin and other similar bioflavonoids are commonly referred to as vitamin P,  however they are not actually vitamins. They are most commonly found in citrus fruits.  Hesperetin assists in the formation of vitamin C, which we know helps our immune system. It also helps with inflammation and swelling in the veins.
  • Resveratrol:  If your a red wine drinker, you may have heard that it is good for your heart! That’s because it contains resveravatrol.  You don’t have to be a wine drinker to to enjoy the benefits of resveratrol.  It is found in the skins of grapes and other dark red berries. Very dark cholocate/cacao is a great source also!  Resveratrol is a powerful anti-oxidant, protects cardiovascular health, helps protect the brain and cognitive mental health, may help prevent diabetes and helps prevent obesity.
  • Theobromine:  Theobromine is found in the cacao bean, therefore it can be found in very dark chocolate.  Theobromine is similar in chemical structure to caffeine, though not as strong.  It does have stimulant properties, but unlike caffeine, it does not stimulate the central nervous system. It is not toxic to humans, but it can be to pets, such as dogs and horses, hence why you are told not to give your dog chocolate. Besides the benefit of increasing your energy levels, it is helpful in that it can lower blood pressure by dilating the blood vessels and can relax the bronchial muscles in the lungs. Theobromine can be used as cough medicine.

These are just some of the benefits of just a few phytonutrients.  Each phytonutrient plays and essential part in making our bodies strong and healthy.  It’s not all about vitamins and minerals ladies and gentlemen!

The biggest AH HA for me, is that our food is much more complex than we ever imagined. We cannot expect to eat processed, nutrient deficient, yet fortified foods and expect to be healthy. We want to get all the benefits a good healthy diet can provide. God of our Universe knew exactly what He/She was doing when our abundant earth was created. Everything works together, nothing in Gods creation is meaningless,  lets try to eat the way nature intended and I bet you will find your body will thank you!

Blessings

Bare Necessities vs Self Actualization

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“Be the Best You Can Be!”,  “Become Addicted to Constant and Never-Ending Self Improvement”, “It’s Not How Good You Are, It’s How Good You Want To Be”.  Don’t you just love motivational quotes?  It somehow speaks to our innermost self and cheers us on to BE BETTER!!  What does that look like for you?

I think that if you are reading this, or other wellness blogs and posts, you are looking for ways to improve yourself.  You are looking for tools to improve your “Mind, Body, and Spirit”.  I think we can agree that self-improvement is a never ending journey.  We learn and implement important wellness strategies such as proper nutrition, exercise, meditation, positive attitude, and we feel like it is all coming together. We feel healthier, slimmer, more focused, spiritually strong, we love that we are becoming a better version of ourselves. Then,  life takes a turn, we get busy, distracted, stressed, and we fall back into our old familiar patterns. “Inside all of us is this fragile warrior or warrioress for good. Though beaten down by greater odds, it always re-emerges to pull us back on course towards health and well-being, just as surely as we strive to align our eyes level with the horizon”(Arloski)

What is it that makes it so hard to stick with good habits?  Wouldn’t it be nice if we could just learn all this good stuff and stick with it, for good?  I think the truth is most people are not able to stick with a diet, or new exercise routine, etc 100% of the time unless they have a profound reason to do so. That reason may be that if you don’t, it will be to the detriment of your basic physiological needs.  That is the basis of Abraham Maslow’s theory “Hierarchy of  Needs”.  His belief and I would agree,  is that there is a hierarchy to self-actualization. Essentially, if a person is struggling with basic physiological needs, such as a person in poverty who is worried about where the next meal will come from, they cannot rise up to the next level (as seen in the pyramid).  Wherever we are in life, if we don’t have our basic needs met, we cannot achieve rising to the level of self-actualization.  However, as Maslow so profoundly stated, “Self Actualization is the intrinsic growth of what is already in the organism, or more accurately, of what the organism is”, we as human beings are that organism.  You have that desire, and you will strive towards it, knowingly or unknowingly.

As a nutrition coach, our goal is to coach someone towards higher levels of wellness, helping them to discover increasingly effective ways of getting their basic needs met. That is helping them do two things: Eliminate inadequacies and shortcomings from their lives  and meet their needs. It is important to understand that people who are conscious of their wide range of needs will set out to achieve them, here and now.

Maslows Worksheet

Take a moment and look at the above worksheet.  Perhaps a good place for you to start in working towards your permanent goal of optimal Mind, Body, Wellness, is to look at the pyramid and think about ways you are meeting these needs. By doing so I believe you can build a stronger foundation of wellness, on your way to achieving your higher purpose of Self Actualization.

Lastly, I would like to leave you with a thought. What is wellness?  Wellness is not just the absence of disease, it is living your life consciously in ways that improve your health and well-being. Constantly striving to strengthen the “Trinity to Wellness”, Your MIND, BODY, AND SPIRIT.

Blessings

A VISION FOR YOU-MAKE IT HAPPEN!

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Do you believe in yourself? Do you have the confidence to pursue your dreams? Do you believe you can achieve ANYTHING you set your mind to? I certainly hope so.

Sometimes we get caught up in just “getting by”.  Life gets pretty hectic.  So many things to do just to get through each day. How do you move those dreams to reality?  Setting an INTENTION is the key to manifesting  the life you want. I think we can all agree, nothing worth having comes easy.  We have to apply ourselves to achieve greatness.  We are all worthy of greatness!

There are many steps you can, and should take in pursuing your goals. Here are a few

  • LIVE IN AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE– It is so easy to look at all the things that are wrong in our lives. How about getting rid of that “stinkin thinkin”. Keep a gratitude journal. Every night simply write down all the things you have to be grateful for. It really puts things in perspective. No matter who you are, or what you have, you will struggle with problems, that’s life. I guarantee if you sit down and start writing all the blessings in your life, you WILL BECOME GRATEFUL. It will turn that frown upside down!
  • VISUALIZE LIVING YOUR DREAM- Imagery is a powerful tool. Spend just five minutes a day visualizing yourself living the life you always dreamed of. What does it look like? How does it feel to live the life of your dreams? Go deep. Think about where you are, who you are with, what are you doing.  Make it as real as possible.
  • CLEAR THE CLUTTER– When you are holding on to the old, , you will have no room e room for the new. Clear the clutter and make room for new blessings in your life. Make an effort to remove people, places and things that no longer serve you. Choose your relationships wisely, as you can only rise as high as your tribe!
  • LET GO OF EXPECTED OUTCOMES-You may think you know how your dreams might manifest themselves, but the Universe works in amazing ways. Don’t get caught up in a expecting a specific outcome, such as a your dating partner, dream job or home. Trust and faith are required here! Trust the Universal Higher Power to bring you unexpected surprises.
  • FEEL GOOD NOW– Don’t wait to be happy, enjoy today! Be happy NOW, be positive. Life is a journey, enjoy the ride!
  • LET GO OF THE PAST– Live in the moment. Don’t dwell on the past, it is done. We cannot change the past, but we can learn from the lessons of yesterday. Those lessons help shape the future we want. That also means letting go of worrying about the future. If you are doing the next right thing, you are doing all you can.
  • USE AFFIRMATIONS-Affirmations are a powerful tool to reprogram your subconscious mind. Writing down a list of empowering beliefs that empower your goals and dreams will bring them to life. Affirmations like; I AM ENOUGH, I AM STRONG, I AM LOVED, I AM DIVINELY GUIDED, I AM ON MY PATH TO GREATNESS, I AM PERFECT THE WAY THAT I AM. Make sure you feel them as you say them.
  • LIVE IT – Don’t wait,  dress for success now, put your best foot forward. If your dream is to find the love of your life, you have to get out there and meet people, socialize, date, live it up!  If you dream of traveling to foreign countries, start now by exploring your own city and attractions.
  • VISION BOARD– My favorite tool! Above is a picture of my recent vision board. A vision board is a visualization tool  used to build a collage of words and pictures that represent your goals and dreams. The best way to achieve your goals is to keep them at the top of your mind, so you’re always looking for ways to move yourself closer to them – a vision board is the perfect tool to help you do that. You can be as creative or as simple as you like. Recycle! Look for a used cork board at your local thrift store. (I used a picture frame I found at a thrift store) You can simply pin images of what you want to manifest to your board, when it manifests, simply remove it and put up a new goal. Keep a spot for your dreams that have manifested, it is very empowering when you see all your accomplishments pile up!

NOW GET GOING! DREAM IT, LIVE IT! CREATE A VISION FOR YOU!!

Blessings